Anyway adults saying “I don’t know isn’t an answer” is part of the reason I learned to lie and bluff so well.
Really though, what was that about? I don’t know is a valid answer. It communicates very clearly that the child cannot answer your question, and therefore maybe needs more help understanding the question/situation. Why do you try and push them to give an answer they don’t have? That stresses them out and it makes them feel like they’re being punished for not knowing something.
i thought i was the only one with an “i don’t know” problem because my parents made it seem it was the strangest and also most horrible thing in the world. i genuinely didn’t know and they got angry and that only blocked my thoughts more which meant i didn’t know the answer to anything else.
THIS ^^^
Also “I don’t know” is a commonly used sentence for children with ADHD/Autism. We DON’T know why we can’t do our homework. We DON’T know why we can’t eat certain foods sometimes. We DON’T know why we forgot to do a chore. It’s really distressing when you genuinely don’t know and people think you’re just lying or indifferent
This is my depression~~
Didn’t know why I wanted to lie in bed as a kid and just vibe to my music. Didn’t know why I couldn’t stand living in the real life, waiting for time to tick by in an imaginary world instead of enjoying and exploring the very cool and vastly more complicated world I was actually living in. It felt like I didn’t have anything, even though objectively, I was EXTREMELY privileged. Loving parents and extended family, good friends, understanding teachers and other authority figures who just wanted to understand and help me.
But I couldn’t help them understand because I didn’t understand. Nothing felt good or okay even when I wasn’t physically ill or hurt. Something was broken and I couldn’t do ANYTHING and I didn’t know WHY. It was a constant frustration. For all of us.
So I started faking it. And that… went about as well as one thinks it does.
I thought I had anxiety for most of my young adult life, but it turns out when you hold shit in and fake a bunch of crap, you body… REALLY doesn’t appreciate it! : D
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